Time for Another

the diary of our quest for baby number 2

It’s a … Thursday 7 February 2008

Filed under: 2nd child,cherry tree,consultant,midwife,MIL,names,scan,trying for a boy — timeforanother @ 1:46 pm

I had a scan on Monday with our wonderful consultant and all is fine with the wriggler. The twins are looking so tiny in comparison, gradually being pushed to the side of my womb. I asked about their placenta and if it was going to cause any problems for the birth, but it’s too early to tell. It’s not like a regular low-lying placenta either because it’s not actually functioning any more, so who knows. I really hope it’s not going to get in the way, we’d still dearly love a homebirth, or at least a waterbirth at the hospital – really keen to avoid a c-section unless absolutely essential.

He didn’t take any measurements so I’m not sure what the CTR length is but it definitely looked bigger than 2 wks ago. I tentatively asked if it was too early to tell what sex it is and he moved the scan thing a little bit to get a view between the legs – “it looks male to me” I waited for the but… but it never came. He then showed me the legs and pointed out the inner thighs and there was definitely ‘something’ inbetween! When I got home, I notice he’s actually put the male symbol on my notes so I’m pretty certain we’re having a boy, although I’ll be having a very good look at the 21wk scan to see if I can see for myself. Lots of people have said their babies were really obviously boys, whereas I would never have known what we were looking at if he hadn’t pointed it out – the view was not a particularly clear one (to me anyway). Still, I trust him – he’s been an obstetrician for 20yrs ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m pleased and nervous – I come from a big female family and don’t really know much about little boys – oh well, I’m about to learn I guess! My husband, mum and MIL are all over the moon about it which is fantastic, especially after all the ups and downs we’ve had.

Still no news from the counsellor about when we might start with her which is a little disappointing, I feel like we’re over the worst and it was hard managing that on our own – we could really have done with the professional help during that time. But I also know that I’m far from coming to terms with the reduction. I still cry most days about them and the horrible situation we found ourselves in. It’s just that I tend to cry a little and privately on my own now. I think we’ve decided to go with a flowering cherry tree to remember the twins by – not only are they really pretty, but cherries come in pairs which is kind of nice and symbolic.

Back to see the consultant in 3wks (it’ll be a different one as mine is on holiday), local mw on Tuesday (first time since booking in at 8wks!), then 21wk scan on 14th March. Still not sure if we’re going to finish having consultant care or not at that point, I’m hoping it will continue throughout the whole pg now, but obviously if it’s not necessary I’ll understand.

Now we have to decide on boy names – girl names are so much easier. I think we already have the middle name sorted, so I’d best go and dig out my baby name books again ๐Ÿ™‚

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Hoo-fucking-ray!! I’m pregnant! Tuesday 13 November 2007

After an uppy-downy kind of November where I had no pregnancy symptoms, a horrible throat/cough thing (still ongoing), a bad back and a very crotchety toddler daughter, all things pointed to another bfn. So, when my period didn’t show up yesterday – with none of my usual tell-tale signs – I thought maybe I’ve miscalculated, and it was due today… so I held off testing until this morning.

After a complete faff with the test (I’m not at my best in the mornings), it looked like I’d got myself a duff one as no lines at all came up. I tried to squeeze a few more drops out into a pot – oh the glamour!! – and nearly dropped it in the bath ๐Ÿ˜€ Anyway, after all the fumbling around, I took another look at the test, and two incredibly faint pink lines were appearing. They’ve got stronger and stronger and are now the positive one is thicker and darker than the test one… So, I’m pretty certain that counts as a positive result. My god, I’m pregnant!!

It’s funny how since deciding to go for number 2, it still feels quite strange when you see the positive test for real. Not nearly as scary as the first time mind you, but strange how yesterday it was a possiblility and today it’s real.

Now to start the merry-go-round of appointments, scans and myriad worries that all pregancies bring. If all goes well, we’re due our 2nd bundle of joy somewhere around 22nd July 2008. Whether we’ve made a boy or not is way down the list right now, having made the starts of a baby is plenty good enough for us ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Random ramblings Tuesday 4 September 2007

Filed under: basal temperature,ovulation,testing,things to do,trying for a boy — timeforanother @ 10:41 am

I think we’ve decided to go for the end of October ‘window’ which would mean (if successful) a due date of around 21st July 08 – it feels a bit weird thinking that far ahead. But, the timing is crucial if we want to maximise the opportunity of conceiving a boy. Boy sperm swim faster than girl sperm but die more quickly, so knowing when ovulation takes place will help with timing.

I’m not using the OT strips again until later this month (really just to determine that my cycle is regular) but I’m continuing with the temperature plotting throughout. Meantime my head is buzzing with all the fun stuff like baby names, birth plans, maternity clothes.

My list of ‘want to do this time’ currently includes:

  • Keep a diary – check!
  • Don’t tell anyone until the 12 week scan (this will be the hardest one)
  • Keep a check on what I eat – last time I put on nearly 4 stone and am still carrying some of it to this day
  • Go to at least one antenatal swimming session
  • Aim for a homebirth (so very nearly managed it last time) possibly in water
  • Make a CD of music to listen to during labour

There will undoubtedly be more as they pop into my head, and undoubtedly some will be no more than items on the list of thingsย we didn’t get around to doing.