Time for Another

the diary of our quest for baby number 2

The homestretch Monday 9 June 2008

It could be any day although the reality is more likely 4-8wks. We are ok for a home waterbirth from 37 wks (I’ll be 34 wks tomorrow) so I hope he hangs on until then. We have a small amount of decorating to finish before we finally get the flat on the market – I’m determined to have it for sale before we have this little fellow, because once he arrives, life will be manic and we’ll never get around to it.

Healthwise, I’m ok – we had a small scare a couple of weeks ago when I had a terrible headache and felt nauseous all day so we ended up paying a trip to the labour ward for monitoring. Thankfully pre-eclampsia was ruled out and we think it was probably just a migraine or virus. I’m now having fortnightly midwife appointments and last time we discussed what might be done with the placenta – I’ve been thinking more and more about this as the time comes to give birth. Initially I thought keeping the placenta was a bit gross, but the more time goes on, I think it would be nice to bury it with the twins’ cherry tree. It won’t be *just* the placenta but the twins will be part of it, along with their placenta – it’s some sort of closure for me to bury them together and have a resting place for them. Even though it’s still a bit freaky to think too hard about.  I’ve also had a call from the GPs counsellor who can fit me in for at least one session before my due date. I had wondered if I needed it, but now that it’s been offered, I feel it’s a good thing to go along. I’m definitely not over my grief and guilt of the reduction and in fact as I near the due date, the more it’s on my mind and I’ve had a few weepy moments. Interestingly over the weekend I ended up talking at length to a friend who initially I had thought would have reason to judge (she’s Catholic). However she was a great listener and seemed to understand that we’d been through hell and back and had considered every option possible before coming to the dreadful decision that we did. She told me of a quote from Richard E Grant about grief which goes something like this: ‘You never get over grief, but you do learn to walk around it’. That makes a lot of sense. 

And so as we reach those last few weeks, I’ve got my TENS machine ordered, hospital bag packed for me, baby’s one is prepared and needs putting in a bag (just in case of course!), vague plan of what to do with dd when things kick off, website bookmarked for the birth pool. Birth plan needs to be written up ready, a firmer plan for dd needs to be settled. The decorating needs to be finished and the flat on the market. But we’ll get there!

Other news: DD has potty trained successfully day and night – she’s taken to it like a duck to water, clearly it was the right thing to do to wait until she was ready. We attended our friends’ wedding over the weekend and it was great – beautiful weather, great service, lovely reception. I felt glamourous next to my handsome husband and dd looked so cute it was unbelievable!

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How many days, weeks, months pregnant am I? Wednesday 30 January 2008

Filed under: calculator,facts,pregnant,size,things to do — timeforanother @ 6:36 pm

Dates and numbers:
There are 173 days until your due date on July 22, 2008.
You are 107 days pregnant.
You are 15 weeks pregnant.
You are 3.5 months pregnant.
You are in your 4th month of pregnancy.
Your 1st trimester: October 16, 2007 to January 14, 2008. (0 – 12 weeks)
Your 2nd trimester: January 15, 2008 to April 28, 2008. (13 – 27 weeks)
Your 3rd trimester: April 29, 2008 to July 22, 2008. (28 – 40 weeks)
Your baby’s crown-to-rump length is approximately 4 inches and s/he now weighs approximately 1.75 ounces. Your baby is close to the size of a softball and you can easily tell that you are pregnant now! If you wear maternity clothes or a swimming suit, other people will be able to tell that you are pregnant also. You can probably feel your uterus about three to four inches below your bellybutton.

With thanks to I-am-pregnant.com

Although my uterus is definitely higher up than that – I’d say it was just under my bellybutton right now! Probably still measuring larger because of the triplets. If I had a tape measure to hand, I’d measure around the bump – that would be fun to chart… 🙂

 

Waiting Monday 15 October 2007

Filed under: down,dpo,positive,testing,things to do — timeforanother @ 12:45 pm

15dpo or CD1?? Still waiting for period to start, all signs point that way, although a teeny tiny part of me is still holding on to the hope that I may just be pregnant. One last pregnancy test left in the house which I absolutely am not going to use unless my period doesn’t show up by Wednesday – which would be 2-3 days late (and I’m usually like clockwork, 28 days spot on). Hate this waiting.

Had a good old cry on Saturday night about it all, and feel marginally better for it. Things learnt this month have been useful – I’m more aware of my body and it’s cycle; I know I have no will power when it comes to taking pregnancy tests, so I will limit the amount in the house; I will cut down on drinking; I will accept that I will get slightly obsessed with it all but try and take it in my stride.

 

Still thinking ahead Friday 21 September 2007

Filed under: 2nd child,testing,things to do,worries — timeforanother @ 11:15 am

And even got my husband doing it too! NCT classes, hypnobirthing, maternity wear, unguents, swimming, sleeping, you name it, we’ve discussed (and continue to discuss) it. It’s so great that we’re both really excited about this, as usual I have my paranoid moments of thinking he’s just going along with it to keep me happy. But I truly believe that isn’t the case and we are both looking forward to being parents again.

OPK use starts on 25th, counting down.  Can’t wait to see those two pink lines agan!

 

A shortish post about something and nothing Saturday 8 September 2007

Filed under: 2nd child,ovulation,things to do — timeforanother @ 11:20 pm

Another night alone so certainly no ‘practising’ going on. I’ve been really tetchy today, could be down to a disturbed nights sleep or early PMT, or both. Hoping for a better night and a calmer day tomorrow. On the plus side, finally met a friends 9 wk old baby boy who is adorable (and was fast asleep) and played with a couple of toddler boys – I need to learn more about cars & vehicles if we have a boy!

The month seems to be dragging along, I just want to get to ovulation time and get this show on the road 🙂 Soooo impatient to get to the exciting bits and allow myself to get reading anything and everything (again). If our plan succeeds we’re hoping to send first scan pics to the grandparents as an early Christmas card – that’s assuming we can keep it quiet that long.

Only one more thing to report, husband dearest is having a user name for this blog so he can put down his thoughts and feelings about the journey too.

 

Random ramblings Tuesday 4 September 2007

Filed under: basal temperature,ovulation,testing,things to do,trying for a boy — timeforanother @ 10:41 am

I think we’ve decided to go for the end of October ‘window’ which would mean (if successful) a due date of around 21st July 08 – it feels a bit weird thinking that far ahead. But, the timing is crucial if we want to maximise the opportunity of conceiving a boy. Boy sperm swim faster than girl sperm but die more quickly, so knowing when ovulation takes place will help with timing.

I’m not using the OT strips again until later this month (really just to determine that my cycle is regular) but I’m continuing with the temperature plotting throughout. Meantime my head is buzzing with all the fun stuff like baby names, birth plans, maternity clothes.

My list of ‘want to do this time’ currently includes:

  • Keep a diary – check!
  • Don’t tell anyone until the 12 week scan (this will be the hardest one)
  • Keep a check on what I eat – last time I put on nearly 4 stone and am still carrying some of it to this day
  • Go to at least one antenatal swimming session
  • Aim for a homebirth (so very nearly managed it last time) possibly in water
  • Make a CD of music to listen to during labour

There will undoubtedly be more as they pop into my head, and undoubtedly some will be no more than items on the list of things we didn’t get around to doing.